Martha Stewart Is a Midlife Horsewoman–“It’s a Good Thing!”

I know that while many of us hold aspects of Martha Stewart’s prodigious talents in the realm of all things home and kitchen to some degree “sacred,” perhaps a few of us didn’t realize her interests extended to the barnyard. Yes, Martha has a penchant for Friesians, and if this uber-busy-business-magnate can make time for riding and grooming and “playing horse,” then surely all those who have long tried to emulate her in other areas of their life can do the same!

As we can discover with a little help from the bestselling SMART WOMAN’S GUIDE TO MIDLIFE HORSES, making time to finally follow your “horse dreams” later in life can reignite your inner self; reinspire your desire to get out, get fit, have fun, and make new friends; and become one of the most fulfilling parts of what author Melinda Folse likes to call, “Your Life: Part Two.” Horsemanship, on the ground or in the saddle, offers a multitude of reasons to get out of bed every morning and greet each new day with anticipation of what lies around the next bend in the trail.

Midlife horsemanship–“It’s a good thing!”

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And just for end-of-the-week laughs, check out this fabulous clip of Conan O’Brien riding with Martha on her farm in New York…and you have to watch it until the end!

Horses: The Key to Friendships, Then and Now

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Anyone who has been around horses long enough has, or has had, “horsey” friends. These are the buddies, the pals, the confidantes who “get” who you are when you’re mucking stalls, who laugh at the same four-legged antics, who commiserate over the same mystery lamenesses and training problems. They might be the same friends you hit happy hour with, or maybe not. Sometimes they’re people reserved for that time when you are most who you want to be…beside or on the back of a horse.

“Horses bring great friends into our lives,” says TSB Promotions Director Julie Beaulieu. “From the childhood friends who ran through the woods on horseback with us, to the teenage friends we met on the show circuit, we have ties to them through our horses and the times we have spent together. Once of my most memorable friendships was with a woman named Caroline. She brought her horse to board at a facility where I had my horse a few years ago. She showed me how to enjoy horses ‘later’ in life—Caroline was in her seventies when I met her. While she did not ride much, she generously shared her horse with many of the younger riders at the barn and reveled in the joy of horse ownership and watching others enjoy her horse as much as she did. She also supported all the riders at the barn by being at every event they went to and cheering them on. Always with a smile on her face and a kind word, she was a great example of how to keep active and happier with your horses and friends.”

“Horses have been the catalyst to some of my closest and dearest friendships,” says TSB Managing Director Martha Cook. “Dozens and dozens of names whiz through my mind as I think about the people I’ve met through horses in the last 40 years: Karen Lecuyer, my first ‘Morgan friend’…No two 13-year-olds ever loved their first horses more. Ann Bowes, an older, wiser friend who agreed to chaperone me as a kid down the trails mounted on a young mare both too green and too hot. Johanna Kozlowski, my best buddy at my first ‘horse job’…We rode a lot of miles and shoveled a whole lot of manure together. Les Parker, taskmaster and friend, who taught me a lot about what to do and what not to do with horses. Harriet Goodwin, fellow Morgan lover with whom I shared hundreds of miles of trail and an equal amount of conversation.

“And I have horses to thank for meeting my best friend and the love of my life,” adds Martha. “If I hadn’t struck up a riding friendship with horsewoman Betsy Cook in South Woodstock, Vermont, in 1988, I’d never have meet her son, now my husband of 20 years. For any young women out there looking for a man, I highly recommend finding a riding buddy with a son or two! They come trained to hold horses, drive trailers, and listen to conversations that solely revolve around breeds, gaits, and bloodlines!”

I, too, can think of many special friendships that budded and blossomed because of and around horses. Not one, but TWO bridesmaids in my wedding party were the result of horsey friendships that developed into something very special. It is amazing how hours grooming horses, scrubbing water buckets, cleaning tack, and riding the trails can nurture very deep, very true relationships!

“Horse Friends” can be found at any point in your life. It is never too late to rediscover old ones or find new ones. They are a great source of endless conversation, and common ground for people from all backgrounds, of all ages, for all time. Watch the women in this video from the bestselling book THE SMART WOMAN’S GUIDE TO MIDLIFE HORSES talk about the ways horses have brought them friends, and always given them a place full of like-minded people to turn to, sometimes when they need them most. Think about how you can find horses, and the friendships they bring, a place in your life today, so you have a happier, more fulfilling tomorrow.

And check out the DUST OFF YOUR DREAMS RETREAT launched by Melinda Folse, author of THE SMART WOMAN’S GUIDE TO MIDLIFE HORSES!

-Rebecca Didier, Senior Editor

Making Time for Horses in Life…When There’s NEVER Enough Time

A decade ago, if we were asked to name the single universal hurdle that most people must clear in order to have horses in their life, we might have said, “Money.” I think that is changing.

Make no mistake, riding horses, buying horses, and caring for horses is still an expensive hobby/habit/obsession/passion…but these days, I find those who wish for a few hours in the barn or on the trail are inhibited less by their bank account and more by depleted time stores. With all that we do, with all that we have, with globalization, world travel, smashed glass ceilings, and working parents, we have little time for much else outside the daily to-dos. And perhaps even more than money, horses require time.

So how do we put on the brakes in the middle of heavy traffic? How do we cut speed when we’re surrounded by others traveling a million-miles-an-hour? In her bestselling, you-CAN-get-there-from-here-book THE SMART WOMAN’S GUIDE TO MIDLIFE HORSES, author and midlife horsewoman (against the modern-day-working-mom odds) Melinda Folse provides valuable ideas for making room and making time for horses…in a crowded life where there’s NEVER enough time. (You can order your copy of Melinda’s book from the TSB online bookstore, where shipping in the US is always free—CLICK HERE TO ORDER NOW.)

Try this exercise from THE SMART WOMAN’S GUIDE TO MIDLIFE HORSES and get started “clearing your own trail” today…so you can be riding tomorrow:

1  Track your time use in a journal for a full week. At the end of the week, group your entries into the following categories:



HOME (household tasks and errands)

PEOPLE (family and friends)

PERSONAL MAINTENANCE (bathing, dressing, personal appointments, and tasks)

SELF (activities that renew you mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually)

Tally the total time spent each week in each category. These numbers reveal where your priorities are right now. Is this a life of balance and joy? What adjustments do you need to make? What do you wish your priorities were?

3  Now reorder your priorities to reflect the “horsey” life you want to lead in terms of how you spend your time. Use this new list as your guide as you start to enforce your new set of priorities by saying “No,” scheduling less, and canceling engagements until you reach a balance of time and choice that reflects your personal values and who you want to become.

Find more fun, easy-to-implement advice on finding horses again, or for the very first time, in THE SMART WOMAN’S GUIDE TO MIDLIFE HORSES by Melinda Folse.


And check out the great videos about how horses can bring fun, fulfillment, fitness, and friendship into your life by clicking on the Vodpod Featured Videos widget on the right side of this page.

TSB Author Melinda Folse Featured on THE HORSE SHOW WITH RICK LAMB

Melinda Folse, author of THE SMART WOMAN’S GUIDE TO MIDLIFE HORSES, spent an hour chatting with Rick Lamb, host of television and radio’s hit show THE HORSE SHOW WITH RICK LAMB (Rick is also the author of HUMAN TO HORSEMAN–a fabulously written book about his journey from greenhorn to knowledgeable horse owner and the famous trainers and clinicians he’s spent time with over the years).

Melinda and Rick talked about the stage of our journey we know as “midlife” and how “reflection,” and time management play hugely into our ability to make horses part of our day-to-day existence. Horses at midlife, whether your ride them or not, provide quality relationships we often can’t find in our human counterparts. They give us reason to pause in the middle of a busy day, and reason to rush home after work at the end of the week.

Melinda and Rick touch upon important aspects of midlife horsemanship such as finding the right horse for you where you are now; facing (and dealing with) fear of horses and riding even though you love them, using tips from Mary Wanless, John Lyons, and Matt Johnson; and how horses can make you a better person and provide a means for “giving back” to society.

Don’t miss this intelligent and inspiring conversation between two of the horse industry’s most thoughtful and talented authors. Check out Melinda Folse on THE HORSE SHOW WITH RICK LAMB and don’t forget to order your copy of THE SMART WOMAN’S GUIDE TO MIDLIFE HORSES, available at the TSB bookstore,where shipping in the US is always FREE.


And visit Melinda’s online “Midlife Horse” community, where you can find sisterly support, tips, advice, and good laughs on Facebook: